Tips For Dating - Women

Dating tips for women will help every lady find the man of her dreams.

From general dating advice for women to specific explanations of lazy and possessive men, we have all the dating tips that women need. Learn how to use body language to your benefit while searching for Mr. Right, start to understand what men want, and get an explanation of why men are like hunters—always on the prowl in the dating jungle. Once you know how men think and where they're coming from, you'll have a better chance of attracting men whose behavior you understand and whose company you enjoy! Dating will be more fun and invigorating once you know more about what you're hoping to accomplish!

Guys: If you don't like this, look away now.

In another dating article on this site, you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way, women have some general rules that they should contend with when entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different, so don't take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published in the USA that lays out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or gal). Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller "The Rules," explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. I can understand why some groups would be hostile about this, but the fact is that when we grow up, there are a predefined set of dating rules. What happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21, and then realize we need to relearn them.
I wish there weren't any general rules, but courtship is a ritual. There are things that we make happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together, then the chances of long term happiness might be compromised. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work all too interestingly.
In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing, you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge, so feel free to adapt rules and add them as you feel inclined.

You can separate rules out into two parts, dating and online dating. Both areas have distinct rules that a woman should follow for dating success.

General Dating Rules
Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time. Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.

Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.

Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind. Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab. Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything. Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.

Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying. If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday. Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates. Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.

Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to. Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom.

Your ex-boyfriends are your business only. Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking. If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys. If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.

Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison. Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing. If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you.

Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else. You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on. If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.

Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Online Dating Rules
Always let them come to you, don't chase them via email.

Block anyone who annoys you instantly.

Post the best and most vampish photo you can find.

Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines.

Remain aloof and let yourself be chased.

Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt.

Never provide your real email or phone details.

Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn.

Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy, as well as enigmatic.

Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best.

Do not assume the person you are talking to is destitute or sad.

Never ever reply to emails on weekends. Wait until a weekday.

Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile. If you don't want to date married men, spell it out in your profile.

A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored.

Make sure your humor levels come across in text. Do not chat to hundreds of men at once.

The delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off. Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out. Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results Ladies, always remember that you are a sexy, desirable woman and the world is your oyster.

Always let men do the chasing and always allow yourself to be the chooser.

Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date.

Dating Rules For Men

You are a guy who is always in a serious relationship. You are a guy who hasn't dated in years. Or maybe you're a guy who has never been successful with women. Whatever your situation, there are some common dating rules to follow when venturing into the dating jungle. These conventions even the playing field, preparing you for success while protected your emotions. Women are trained from day one in the art of dating warfare. They have a physical and emotional arsenal that you may never hope to match. But you won't be outgunned if you properly prepare for the battle.

1. Look your best. Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes, even if you last checked your Nikes in 1996. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Don't just buy one outfit, sort out your entire wardrobe. Buy a nice tailored suit, there is no excuse not to. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her?

2. Sort out your hygiene and styling. Go down to the barbers and clean up your hair, getting it styled if possible. If you don't have much hair, still get down to the salon, maybe get your head shaved. Or just get a regular shave, a professional shave will leave your face looking and feeling great. Then it is off to the shops with you for good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine so you will always smell fresh and clean. Women appreciate it.

3. Sort out your job if you have one. Women want a man who has some ambition in life. Coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch (though I'd give it a go, I love skateboarding). Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. If possible try and look like you have something of a career. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself, and if you already do, then you are on the right track. But know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future plans because women will ask questions about your prospects. Even if they pretend it isn't important, it is.

4. Be in the know. Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity, and laziness is no excuse for sounding dumb. Current affairs are important in showing you know all about the world we live in. If you travel a lot then this will help tremendously. If you don't, make plans to travel and tell her about it. Proving you are willing and able to plan vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.

5. Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess's heart. If you spend all your time boozing with the boys, it's time to take a step back and pick up some more productive habits. Taking your lady for a drink is fine, especially if you take her to get cocktails at a nice lounge, but give them the impression that you live there will get you absolutely nowhere fast.

6. Keep your super fan status in check. If you love your sports and enjoying watch the game with your buddies, fine. If sport is a religion and you have your favorite player's number tattooed on your back, you may have a problem. If you are serious about dating, rattling off baseball stats, ranting about unfair umpires and constantly check the score will put them off in record time. To the uninitiated, sports are completely boring, and many women interpret the obsession as a total lack of thought, creativity or inspiration. Millions of girls love sports too, and rooting for the same team is great, but don't make your passion into a one-sided one.

9. Never expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex, you have come to the wrong place for reading material. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams, there is nothing sexier than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman.

10. Read up on manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated with respect. Lose the coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to eat in a top restaurant. Know about fashion, jewelry and flowers. Know how to hold a door open for a woman, let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you'll be on the right path.

11. Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don't turn into a one-man circus. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her even more.

12. Give up smoking. Now.

13. Learn to dance even if you have two left feet. Women love to dance and it puts you two in close contact. It is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world's worst dancer, I don't care. But if you stay seated when she is on that dance floor you may as well not exist. Try joining salsa and ballroom classes. You don't need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Get started today.

Tips For Dating - Men

Dating Tips for Men

Dating tips for men will help with online dating and more.

Dating can be frustrating for men—it's hard to figure out what women want! Our tips will make it clear how to act, what to wear, and what to say to attract—and keep—the attention of women who interest you. Behave like a gentleman and you'll find dating success. The mysteries of women can never be completely revealed, but we come as close as we can to help you find a woman you like, ask her out, and embark on a successful relationship. With the right approach and knowledge, communicating with a woman can be more than just a frustrating mystery!Finding a date is easy once you know how to do it! We'll give you top tips for creating successful online personal ads, as well as attracting attention in your every day life. Decide what you're looking for in a potential partner, learn how to ask someone out, and find out to behave on a first date (even a blind date!). These tips will help you find more dates than you ever dreamed of! And because we emphasize thinking about what you want in a date before asking someone out, your dates are much more likely to be successful in the long run!

Quick Dating Tips

How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

If you like some one you may have to ask them for a date. For men this is standard practise and for women, this process is becoming increasingly common. If you are thinking of asking someone on a date consider the following quick dating tips:

1. Why are you asking them out, is it for the right reasons and what do you expect as a result of them saying yes or no?
2. Be prepared that the person you ask may say no and in which case do not take the rejection personally.
3. When asking someone out choose your moment carefully and practise what you might say in advance so that you don't appear tongue-tied.
4. If the person you ask says yes, ensure you already have thought of a place, date and time for the date so that you display signs of thoughfulness.
5. Be prepared for the person asking why you want to date them so that you are able to flatter and create a sense of trust immediately. People can be wary and they may want to know some reasosn behind your request. Better, anticipate this by saying "would you like to come to dinner, I have always thought you are great fun..".
6. Make sure that your request for a date does not pressurize the person in any way. If they want to think about it, let them. But don't chase.
7. Make sure that when you ask someone on a date you smile and keep things fun and happy. Being confident and smiley will elicit a far more positive response.
8. Always have an alternative date and time or location in mind should the person be unsure of their diary. Giving a person a choice is often a marketing masterstroke.
9. If the person says no, don't chase for a reason, simply move on. They may think about things and get back to you with a yes response later.
10. If you ask someone on a date, make sure that you actually intend to go through with it. Standing people up is not allowed.
11. If you are being asked out don't play games. If you need time to consider the offer then say so. If you want to say no, say no. But do not keep someone hanging on for no reason. You wouldn't like the situation if it was reversed.
12. Try to avoid dutch-courage such as using alcohol to boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.
13. Don't ask someone out when they are in a group of friends. Timing is everything.